In this happy project, we encourage you to socialize with other people. Yes, you can do it, you can learn how to small talk or chat with almost anybody. We believe that in the times of our digital world, social media, it became real hard for many of us to communicate with others in your daily life. In extreme cases, people so not talk at all but hack everything into their social media platforms. Most of us know the scenery, sitting in the bus, train, or in a park, however all persons that one possibly could possibly talk to, have plugged in their AirPods, or stare at their phone screen. Basically, they’re symbolizing the entire world not to talk to them. Nonetheless, we observed that most people that are so self protective are actually really lonely. Even it seems hard, there are some many benefits why you should talk with others. Such as a finding new friends, experience cool stories, or even create a network of people that you can rely on in your daily life. 

So don’t hide and wait, but start to talk to others about or whatever topic you might find interesting. So in order to become more talkative or a real small talker, try out the following steps and see it as an experiment. And please don’t push yourself too hard. 

Checkout your environment

Be in a save environment. You probably do not want to start your first small talk in a neighborhood that is considered as not safe. Or somewhere alone in the park in the night. Ok this might sound a bit strange, however, if you feel uncomfortable, by a persons’ behavior, the body language or, by an aggressive attitude, you should probably not talk to this person, because the person be dangerous. We are not saying that this must be true at all, but some sort of awareness is never wrong. So trust your instincts before you decide to do a small talk. 

Decide on which topics you want to talk about

So before you start a small talk, think about a small repository about potential topics you can to talk about. Here are some examples. The weather, your local sports club, sports in general, politics, finances and so on. Actually the easiest topic is the weather, it is cold in winter, too hot in summer, people love to talk about the weather. So be prepared and have a couple of topics in your mind.

Do your first small talk experiment  –  The opening

So imagine you are in the following situation: You are in the elevator or bus stop, and you feel of talking to the person is next to you, you could try the following by just saying. “OMG, it is so super hot in here, I wish someone could turn on the air condition”. Look gently at the person and ask, aren’t you also that hot? And wait, if the person next to you is reacting. And maybe you have your first small talk. Maybe the other person answer, “Well, I have heard that the air condition is broken, and we will need to wait to get it fixed”. Maybe the other person is not reacting at all. Anyway, keep practicing the opening of your small talk with many persons in various locations. We found it is way easier to practice any small talk with older people, for whatever reason most of them are super happy to tell their stories to their surroundings. So maybe you want to practice with older people first. 

Anyway, you should show real interest. Watch your language. Do not use any swear words for when practicing the opening. People might find you aggressive. It is better to be polite. Be careful about your voice. You might scare others when you start shouting at them, so not raise your voice. Try to speak with a moderate volume.

Another opening that you might want to try out, the “what time is it?” – opening. You could ask any person for the time. Simple as that: “Excuse me, what time is it?”. So you could approach any person to gain information you actually need. So be creative and keep practicing your own openings, and you will develop a strong, eloquent personality. Moreover, you will eventually become better to talk to others and develop a good network that will assist you in your daily life. 

So do the small talk happy project in your daily life, and have fun, be enthusiastic, and successful.

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